“How to Make Shopping with an Aging Parent a Little Easier” by our Publisher Betsy O’Leary

"How to Make Shopping with an Aging Parent a little easier"

In my last blog, I shared the ups and downs of taking my mom shopping at Walmart. It was a trip full of memories, both sweet and bittersweet, but it wasn’t without its challenges. If you’re caring for an aging parent, you know how outings like these can be both meaningful and exhausting. Over time, I’ve learned a few strategies that help make these trips smoother—for both my mom and me.

Here are some tips to keep in mind if you’re planning a shopping trip with your aging parent:

  1. Plan Ahead, but Stay Flexible

Have a general idea of what you need to pick up, but remember the outing might not go as planned. Allow extra time for wandering, storytelling, or detours. Flexibility can help ease frustrations for both of you.

  1. Choose the Right Time

Pick a time of day when your parent is most energetic and focused. For my mom, mornings work best. Also, avoid peak shopping hours to minimize distractions and stress. Also Walmart is a great store but maybe CVS, Walgreens or Aldi might be easier to navigate and have a smaller selection to make choices easier and manageable.

  1. Encourage Participation

Let your parent take the lead where they can. Whether it’s pushing the cart, picking out produce, or making small decisions, being involved can make them feel more connected and in control. Shopping carts or shopping buggies are very large at some stores, maybe a smaller cart easier to push and navigate! 

  1. Redirect with Compassion

If they get fixated on items they don’t need or can’t use, try redirecting the conversation gently. For instance, when my mom picked up a pizza, I reminded her she doesn’t have an oven and then suggested we could go out for pizza together sometime (even if she ultimately declined).

  1. Embrace the Memories

Shopping can trigger a flood of memories. Some may be warm and heartfelt; others may bring up challenges or frustrations from the past. Take a deep breath and listen. These moments can be an opportunity to connect and understand your parent better.

  1. Be Realistic About Your Limits

It’s okay to feel drained or frustrated—it’s a lot to balance. Give yourself grace, and consider shorter trips if you’re feeling overwhelmed.

  1. Have a Post-Trip Plan

Outings can be tiring for both of you. Plan for some downtime afterward—maybe a quiet coffee break together or time for each of you to recharge.

  1. Ask for Help When Needed

If shopping trips become too challenging, don’t hesitate to ask for help. A family member, friend, or even a caregiver could step in, giving you both a break when necessary.