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What’s Your Mindset About Retirement?

By Marianne Oehser

Your mindset affects every part of your life. That is
especially true about retirement. Your attitudes and beliefs about this time of
your life will determine whether you see endless possibilities or whether you
buy into some of the negative myths. It will affect your health and your
happiness.

Most people choose one of two mindsets about retirement: The
Euphoric Mindset or the Gloom-and-Doom Mindset

The Euphoric Mindset

As we approach retirement, most of us are ready to say goodbye to the hectic pace and all the stress
that goes with most careers. We are ready to downshift a bit and are excited
about enjoying our much earned
‘vacation.’

The retirement picture we create in our minds is often the Hollywood version with lots of excitement but
not much clarity. It’s filled with images of things we want to do — travel,
golf, tennis, boating, or anything else we have dreamed of doing. And, probably
the new toys you want, like a boat. For
many of us, that is just how retirement starts
and it feels pretty euphoric. Enjoy it while it lasts.

Just like any outstanding vacation, it is not a permanent
state. It is simply not realistic to expect the euphoria and the newness to
last forever – but somehow, we do it anyway. We think that being on vacation
for 20 years will continue to have the same excitement
that it had in the beginning. But, it doesn’t – it fades.

The problem with a Euphoric Mindset is that it leads to
disappointment. The day will come when all the play is not as much fun as it
was in the beginning.

This can create a new kind of stress. Retirement no longer fits your Hollywood image
and you don’t know what to do about it. You are no longer sure what you want
your days and weeks to be like. You probably feel like you are a bit adrift.

That is when it’s time
to get serious about building your Happiness Portfolio®.
That means designing your new life so that it is balanced and diversified just
like your financial portfolio. Research
shows that the people who are the happiest in retirement are those who invest
time and energy in all aspects of their
life — having fulfilling relationships, enjoying social connections, making a
contribution in some way, maintaining your health, enjoying leisure activities,
growing as a human being in some way, and incorporating spirituality – whatever
that means to you.

If you are looking at retirement with a Euphoric Mindset, by
all means keep the mindset that this will be the best time of your life but be
realistic about the fact that the honeymoon will end and figure out what you
want your life to be like when it does.

The Gloom-and-Doom Mindset

The opposite of the euphoric mindset is the gloom-and-doom
mindset. The gloom-and-doom mindset looks at retirement as the end of the line. The story it tells you is that all the good things in
your life are over and there is nothing
more to look forward to. It tells you that you are being put out to pasture
because you are useless. It says that everything is downhill from here and
focuses on your own mortality.

One of the big problems with
such a negative outlook on this act of your life
is that it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you are focused on all
of the things that are potentially bad about this new phase, you are not likely
to see the endless possibilities for how great your life can be now. This kind
of thinking can negatively impact your health and lots of research studies have
shown that it probably will. It will definitely turn you into a grumpy person
and can lead to serious depression.

Of course, there are some
legitimate things that are not so wonderful
about this phase of your life. You probably don’t have the boundless energy of
your youth. You might fear that you will become ‘irrelevant’ and may not keep
up with all of the information and technology changes that will certainly
evolve. A whole segment of your social life will disappear including the people
you interacted with as part of your career. These things are real but you don’t
have to let them take you down a rabbit hole you can’t get out of.

Shifting your mindset to a
more positive perspective will allow you
to look at things differently. Choosing a story that
includes the possibility that there
are more positive things ahead will shift your mindset and allow you to see ways
to deal with the downsides of life after your
career.

Staying stuck in either the euphoric or the gloom-and-doom way of looking
at retirement will not serve you very well in the long run.

A Third Option

Carl Jung, Ph.D. was a Swiss psychiatrist and founder of Analytical Psychology who had a profound impact on
how we see a wide range of areas today. Dr. Jung offers us another way of looking at this stage of life. He talks
about the “afternoon of life.” The morning of our life is focused on achieving things – getting an education, building a
career, raising a family, acquiring things, becoming someone. Dr. Jung says
the “afternoon of life” is not just a “pitiful appendage to life’s morning” and
rather than seeing our afternoon as a process of reduction, he says it is a
process of expansion.“The afternoon of life is just as full
of meaning as the morning; only, its meaning and purpose are different.”                              

This way of looking at the new chapter of your life suggests that there is much to be savored about it. The afternoon just has a different rhythm than the morning. It may be a time for slowing down a bit but it can still be filled with enthusiasm and activity. It is an opportunity to focus on different things than you did in the morning of your life. It is an opportunity to see new and different possibilities for how you invest your time and energy. It is a time to discover the meaning and purpose of your own afternoon.

It’s time to bask in your afternoon sun.